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Wednesday, March 9, 2016

UNSTUCK... ESCAPING THE RUT OF A LIFELESS MARRIAGE by BARRY D. HAM, PHD.

There are many reasons that people get married. For some it's because they want companionship, others are looking for love while others just want to be wanted. But what happens after a period of time when the newness wears off and you feel stuck? It's time to get back that feeling you had when you first said I do. As we said our vows we had hopes and dreams. Those can still be achieved if we can change how we think and look at our spouse.

Have you caught yourself saying, they weren't who I thought they were ? It's almost like your spouse changed overnight into a stranger that you had never met. How did the "happy couple" become two strangers wanting out of a commitment they made "till death do us part." The easy answer is the enemy so subtlety came in and took control . We begin to let little things start to bother us  and before we know what is happening we are ready to throw in the towel. A key to any great relationship is communication. If you don't share how you are feeling, how will your spouse know what is wrong? We must remember that our spouse is not the enemy. It can be intimidating to express your feelings of rejection, not feeling attractive, not loved and the list can go on. When you open up and share what the enemy is using to separate the two of you, you expose the lies and thus start the healing process.

The book is a wonderful tool to help marriages that are in trouble or just to strengthen a marriage . . The author gives great examples from the bible and is very open about the struggles a marriage may face. The book encourages couples to work together and not allow the enemy to win.

"Remembering why we we married is essential if we are to get unstuck and stay unstuck."

I received a copy of this book from The BookClub Network for an honest review.

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