Wednesday, September 16, 2020

About the Book

Book: Nasty Gets Us Nowhere

Author: Drenda Keesee

Genre: Family & Relationships

Release Date: September 1, 2020

Two women who forever changed the world followed a plan to better their lives. One chose God’s design for her. The other listened to a different voice that questioned God and rebelled against Him.

Women and men today face the same decisions that confronted Mary and Eve. We can either seek the Tree of Life with God…or keep biting into the bitter fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.

Statistically, women today are less happy than at any time in measured history. This extolled knowledge of good and evil has had consequences. It’s not about equality in work, pay, or choices. It’s about women wanting to become “like men” instead of being women. It’s about women who aspire to be “nasty” and men who are confused about what it means to be a real man.

Nasty Gets Us Nowhere reveals the powerful truth behind learning to do relationships like Christ, particularly relationships between men and women. Our culture often incites rebellion, but God calls us to work together. As Galatians 5:15 says, “If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other” (niv).

In an age saturated with feminism and gender wars, ex-feminist Drenda Keesee combines her wit, humor, and life experience to unpack a powerful, timely message that sets the record straight. She reveals why men and women have conflict, what God’s plan for unity is, and how men and women can unite to create an unstoppable force. Drenda believes the pendulum is swinging and there are many conservative women and men who want to make amends and discover how to have relationships that work. There’s also a younger generation searching for keys to live a different life than what they’ve seen modeled.

Drenda says we can see eye to eye when we first see heart to heart and spirit to spirit, coming from a place of cooperation instead of conflict. God’s Spirit coupled with His plan is the only answer to the separation and relationally destructive forces at work in the gender wars. It’s time for restoration and healing, to bring men and women side by side, hand in hand. There’s much at stake. We must understand our uniqueness, our vulnerabilities, and Christ’s unalterable principles for successful working and loving relationships to experience fulfillment and lasting peace.

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MY REVIEW

The title of the book caught my attention right away. Being unkind or judgmental doesn’t get you anywhere but miserable. I had to laugh when I read about the two fires that the author and her husband both had in the kitchen. It is so true that we quickly jump on our spouse when they make a mistake. When we do the same thing it isn’t quite as funny. We need to learn to “give grace” and not try to outdo each other.

Whenever I read about Adam and Eve I think of “The Blame Game.” It is easy to point the finger at your spouse but remember there are fingers pointing back at you as you so proudly poke your finger out in triumph. When my husband and I were dating, I wanted to impress him. One weekend we went out to some land his family owned. It was pretty hot that day and he was going to dig post holes. I had this brilliant idea that I would help. I did manage to do one and then decided that that was enough impressing. That story gets told a lot in our family and is known as “Mom will never dig another post hole.” Why do we think we need to compete with each other? Working together brings unity and accomplishes so much more . We can use our strengths to compliment each other instead of trying to cause strive.

I really liked the chapter about communication. Without communication your marriage has a big chance of failing. I know firsthand how easy it is to keep things inside instead of voicing your opinion. As husband and wives we need to be able to talk to each other honestly so the enemy can’t find a way to divide us. If you don’t agree on something then pray about it. When you pray God will give you both the same direction.

I think the book is very helpful and has many useful tools to help us become more compassionate and less judgmental. I loved the chapter about forgiveness and how we need to forgive ourselves as well as others. “Unforgiveness is a deliberate strategy of the enemy.” The enemy also likes to make us feel unloved and unworthy. Don’t fall for those tricks. Know who you are in Christ and ignore the things that try to tear you down.

I received a copy of this book from Celebrate Lit. The review is my own opinion.

About the Author

Drenda Keesee is a speaker, pastor, daytime television show host, entrepreneur, and author of several books. She has ministered on television and radio and at churches, seminars, and conferences for more than twenty years. Drenda is passionate about bringing women into spiritual, emotional, and relational wholeness so they can live “The Happy Life,” and has founded several programs to that end.

She and Gary Keesee, her husband of thirty-five years, met while attending Oral Roberts University and pastor the 4,500-member Faith Life Church, with campuses in New Albany and Powell, Ohio.
The Keesees have created several successful businesses in the financial arena and are the founders of Faith Life Now, which produces two television programs: Drenda, seen daily on several networks and weekly on Daystar; and Fixing the Money Thing, airing daily on Daystar, GEB, BET, Victory, CTN, VTN, and NRB. Drenda serves as host on these programs, which reach 750 million households worldwide.

Drenda has appeared on numerous other television programs, including Joyce Meyer’s broadcast Enjoying Everyday Life, Table Talk with Joni with Joni Lamb, Marcus & Joni with the Lambs, VictoryThon, and more. She has been featured on CharismaNews.com, Hannah Keeley’s Crazy Blessed podcast, thelaundrymoms.com, and on the cover of Daystar News. Drenda also speaks at conferences worldwide and is known for her ability to inspire, empower, and encourage others to improve their marriages, raise strong children, get out of debt, and embrace God’s best for their life.
In addition to her graduate studies at Oral Roberts University, Drenda received a master’s degree in Christian counseling from Logos University and an honorary doctorate of divinity from CICA International University and Seminary.

The Keesees have five children and several grandchildren. They reside in New Albany, Ohio.

More from Drenda

Nasty Gets Us Nowhere reveals why men and women have conflict and God’s plan to unite them for His kingdom. Coming from a feminist background, I realized that wasn’t the way God intended for me to live.